Is she cheating?

[Without_U]

Is she cheating on me(or/and on the other guy) or I'm thinking too much?

last week I text-ed her around 12 as a goodnight message, 2 sec later I received a text with cursing words, dirty words. I didn't say anything, didn't bother to call back as I know for sure It wasn't her text-ed me. I was sleepy, I got disappointed, a little upset, tired.... so I went to sleep.

2 days later she called, explained that she was at a party at a friend's house and didn't know who sent out that message, and she's sorry that is happened.

She, today just gave me her new Extra number, and told me to call and text to this new number from now on.

I was thinking... why she needs to have 2 numbers for? is the other guy checking on the other number?

[XiMuiCaNaMeChua]

wheww I am glad I am not the only one with two cell numbers ;) j/k

Hmm let me conjure up a couple of possibilities for the scenerio you shared above.

scenerio 1) She was at her friend's house and she might left her phone on the table and someone got a hold of it and thought it is funny to play a practical joke on her (people can be so childish and rude..sometime) .

scenerio 2) Like you said, maybe she is "fishing" around and unfortunately you are not the only fish in her net at the moment. I assumed you both have not make any serious commitment to each other right? You both official yet? If not, you can not blame her for "looking out" for a back up plan. A girl youth can only last for a few years.

Scenerio 3) Sometime friends might borrow her phone and she let them borrow ịt Which is kind of rare giving the fact that now a day practically everybody have a cell phone, but then again, there are always exceptional to everything. Thus, sometime it might be more convience for you to call her on the other phone line.

Whatever it is, stop, take a deep breath, and evaluation all possibilities before jumping into conclusion. Always give people a benefit of the doubt. Good luck!

[MQuang]

yes, these might just be thoughts in your head, and it's might not be the true story. if she doesn't like you, you'll know, time will tell. now, just enjoy each other companies

[erik]

Originally Posted by Without_U

Is she cheating on me(or/and on the other guy) or I'm thinking too much?

last week I text-ed her around 12 as a goodnight message, 2 sec later I received a text with cursing words, dirty words. I didn't say anything, didn't bother to call back as I know for sure It wasn't her text-ed me. I was sleepy, I got disappointed, a little upset, tired.... so I went to sleep.

2 days later she called, explained that she was at a party at a friend's house and didn't know who sent out that message, and she's sorry that is happened.

She, today just gave me her new Extra number, and told me to call and text to this new number from now on.

I was thinking... why she needs to have 2 numbers for? is the other guy checking on the other number?

My rule of thumb if i think she's cheating, she probably is. Tha` gie^t' la^m` chu*' khong bo? sot' ...kakakakak.

Ok go back to your problem. Con gai' very ky? about their fone, if just a regular friend I don't think that person can touch it. If it's a closer friend, why would that person do such thing ??? would any1 in here pick up your close friend or good friend's fone and reply a nasty text to someone you totally don't know ??? Don't you think that would jeopardize your relationship with your friend ???

I can't think of any of my friends who need 2 fones unless he's doing something illegal :P and of course the other fone is prepaid.

Give me the old number I call it 1 awhile to check up for you ....hahahahha...but if i ever need a favor...just return 1 ....lol...

[erik]

Originally Posted by XiMuiCaNaMeChua

scenerio 2) Like you said, maybe she is "fishing" around and unfortunately you are not the only fish in her net at the moment. I assumed you both have not make any serious commitment to each other right? You both official yet? If not, you can not blame her for "looking out" for a back up plan. A girl youth can only last for a few years.

Wat da heo.... If she want to look around or has back up plan. Freaking at least done and make it clear with him 1st before getting to know other.

A girl youth can only last for a few years ??? I guess a guy could last forever ??? That's so sexist.

[XiMuiCaNaMeChua]

Originally Posted by erik

My rule of thumb if i think she's cheating, she probably is. Tha` gie^t' la^m` chu*' khong bo? sot' ...kakakakak.

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now I know why you keep playing the mafia game in Facebook.

Wat da heo.... If she want to look around or has back up plan. Freaking at least done and make it clear with him 1st before getting to know other.

A girl youth can only last for a few years ??? I guess a guy could last forever ??? That's so sexist.

If everybody think that way and be direct and honest from the begining, then this world will have less "heartache" . Girls and Guys majority of the time have some sort of back up plan....if both parties have not agreed that this is a serious relationship....heck some in serious relationships still have back up plan.

I am not being sexist, I am being the "echo" voice of the society that we live in. Girls in their 30 without a husband are considering an old maid...but a guy in their 30 still consider a bachelor and not need to worry about pressure in "You are getting old....better find someone soon."

[ChiLaMuaThuRoi]

WO,

Kiếm bạn gái mới đi & chúc may mắn .

[BigBear]

Well, it's been a while since the last time I visited this site...

@ Without_U: Your post caught my attention because I was in a similar situation as you are. As XMCNMC suggested, give her the benefit of the doubt so that it helps you feel better and you won't mistakenly give her too much pressure. I made that mistake and I hope you won't follow my steps. After all, if she cheats, she cheats. The more you think about her cheating, the more likely you question her and put pressure on her. The more pressure you put on her the farther you push her away. Which in either way ( you are right or wrong) does not benefit you at all. But that does not mean you ignore everything. Time will help you decide if you want to marry her or not. But for now, she is not your wife, you are not marrying her tomorrow, ... what do you have to loose then????
If I were you this is what I would do: I would be cool about it. Enjoy each other's companies as MQuang suggested. (Watch your back though cuz if she is actually cheating on someone else, you might be in trouble ..). And get a back up plan as well. Life is still good. Hint: I read somewhere on the net saying that girls are more likely to fall for cool guys who are not so crazy about them. Show her your love. But giving out too much, too easy, too often will hurt you more than help.

@ XMCNMC: I agree girls' youth is shorter than guys'. But I, personally, do not think a "back-up plan" without your partner's consent works. What goes around comes around. When trust cannot be established, a relationship will be dying for sure. It's just a matter of time. Below is something I found in the internet:

"In the search for love, it's all too easy to get sidetracked by bad dates, broken hearts, and bad love habits. And while bad dates and broken hearts are part of the dating journey toward happily-ever-after, bad love habits can and should be avoided at all costs.
So what's a bad love habit? Any dysfunctional, destructive, difficult belief or habit you have towards love and relationships that's keeping you from finding, attracting, and/or maintaining a healthy relationship. The following are some common bad dating beliefs:
1. You choose potential partners who are incapable of meeting your emotional needs.
2. You think love has to be difficult, painful, and/or hard.
3. You think your potential partner is going to fix whatever you don't like about yourself or your life.
4. You believe time is running out on your search for love and/or your chance to have children."

[erik]

Originally Posted by XiMuiCaNaMeChua

now I know why you keep playing the mafia game in Facebook.

"You are getting old....better find someone soon."

Should I send my mafia after you :P

You're right I'm not getting any younger but I sure can still look better than u when you reach my age or still better than any guys you're dating around my age....kakakaka.....

[XiMuiCaNaMeChua]

Originally Posted by erik

Should I send my mafia after you :P

You're right I'm not getting any younger but I sure can still look better than u when you reach my age or still better than any guys you're dating around my age....kakakaka.....

You are sure are very vain for a guy...that quote was meant people tend to say that to a girl when she is getting older....I am not talking about you...geeze so vain.

[erik]

Originally Posted by XiMuiCaNaMeChua

You are sure are very vain for a guy...that quote was meant people tend to say that to a girl when she is getting older....I am not talking about you...geeze so vain.

U'r right again. I'm very vain as matter of fact. I learn to be modest like you each day and help the world.

[XiMuiCaNaMeChua]

Originally Posted by erik

U'r right again. I'm very vain as matter of fact. I learn to be modest like you each day and help the world.

good, good boy!

[Without_U]

Originally Posted by ChiLaMuaThuRoi

WO,

Kiếm bạn gái mới đi & chúc may mắn .

chắc vậy quá...

hôm rồi nói chuyện với her, có hỏi và unfortunately ..she nhận là there is someone else. She cũng nói thêm là.... she doesn't love him the way that she loves me, but with him... she có cảm giác gần gũi that she doesn't have when she's with me... (what the heck??... cảm giác gần gũi??... is that "better SEX" i heard??)

She wants us both, but then she asked me "Vậy anh muốn em làm gì?, em phải làm gì??" then told me that "Nếu anh muốn thì em có thể bỏ him"....Nói là vậy, nhưng last night she làm gì, ở đâu thì không ai biết.... và bây giờ thì cũng không biết ở đâu... I'm not gonna call, I'll just ... let her do her things..

Chắc mình sẽ không nên tiếp tục với her nữa... thương yêu her thật nhiều, quá nhiều để có thể ở lại just for SEX. ...

Thôi... chúc her hạnh phúc với sự chọn lựa mới.

[BigBear]

W.U. : I just wanna post to support your decision. You must feel lucky because she finally admitted it. Even though it hurts, it helps you a lot to move on. If she had never admitted it, your situation would have been worse since you would have kept the hope that you were wrong until you could find some evidence. Cheer up bro! Go out and socialize will help u feel balance.

[ChiLaMuaThuRoi]

WO,

Buồn hỉ . Khi người mình thương lại thương tùm lum người .

Nghe bài "Cho Em Ra Đi" của Tiến Dũng hát đi WO .

Mà WO cũng trăng hoa mây gió wá trời , chắc vài tháng nữa là quen được cô mới và cô này sẽ bị chôn vùi vào quên lãng như những cô khác thôi .